Remember when I asked a couple of days ago why it's so hard to come up with nice things to say/think about ourselves? I still have no answer. Have you thought of one?
When I sat down earlier today to think about this question, I just kept drawing blanks. So I got up and looked at myself in the mirror. Word of warning, this is going to make me sound completely nuts, and possibly narcissistic, but I promise, I have a point (at least I think I do).
It was so weird to really, really look at myself. I actually felt embarrassed (I guess my mother taught me well, she's heavily ingrained in me that it's rude to stare). And I kept asking the question over and over again, "What do I love about myself?" After what felt like a long time, but was possibly only a few seconds, I still had no answer.
I decided to look at it from a different perspective. And it worked! I was surprised at how easily I started coming up with things that I actually loved about myself. Here are some of them:
1. My ability to think creatively.
2. My persistence for the last 21 years of my life in trying to lose weight - after so many failed attempts, and one success, you would've thought I'd given up by now.
3. My thoughtfulness, generosity and loyalty to those that I love.
4. My interest in reading and writing, as well as my imagination.
5. My sense of style, and how I look in general, over all.
So, what was the different perspective I picked? I'll get to that in a minute. Let me just point out some of the purposes of this exercise:
A. It makes us really think and focus on the positive things about ourselves.
B. Some of us need affirmation from time to time to feel good. Who better else to give it to us than ourselves?
C. It boosts confidence.
D. It feels damn good.
My main point is, do whatever it takes, whatever works for you, to figure out the things you love about yourself, if you don't know those things yet. Don't be afraid to do seemingly stupid/silly things if it'll make you see how wonderful you truly are.
Because heck, the different perspective that worked for me was, "Would I go out with me? Why?"
In case you're wondering, I answered yes. And then immediately clarified with myself that I would, if I were a boy.
Now, before I go bury my head in mortification from sharing the extent of my craziness, I'll leave you with something useful. Here are some lines from Ellie May's post on overcoming fear of failure from a couple of days ago:
"Stop thinking you won't be able to do it, because then you definitely won't and start believing that you can. Turn that dream that seems so impossible and far away into a plan that is coming as soon as you are ready. If you don't, you will always regret it. You will always have that question in your mind, that question full of wonder, regret and missed chances: What if?"Do you know what you love about yourself? What are those things?